Lifestyle, Styling

Lavender & Smoke

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Since body positivity has become such a major social movement, I feel the need to express my sentiments on the subject. I love my body, as one should, but it has taken me years to come to this conclusion. And even though I love my body as a whole, there are still parts of me that I feel like I could improve on. Some things I can change (like my yoga moves), but some things I can’t (like my height).

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It was only within the past few years that I have learned to appreciate every part. Even the parts of me that I don’t love, I find a way to disguise and I accentuate the parts that I do love. Isn’t that what fashion is all about (aside from personal expression), anyway? I’ve never had a problem with my back, shoulders, or décolletage, and that’s always been my focus. Being teased for having a large chest at a young age had an impact on how I dressed, beginning in middle school. Apparel is the original Photoshop.

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With Lavender & Smoke, it was very bizarre because for once my skin didn’t need much retouching. I have struggled with acne for years and finally I’m a place where I feel comfortable going out in public without any makeup on and sometimes I forget I’m not wearing any at all. When I realize this, I’m not worried or scared that someone is judging me for my acne or acne scars. In this shoot, we had fun with makeup without the fear of close-ups. I still focused on the parts of me that I’ve always felt comfortable with, but the overall effect was that of increased confidence. I feel like body acceptance is not so much saying “Yes, I am 100% beautiful!” but more so saying “You know what, I might not 100% love every part about me, but I accept it and I’m going to try my best to love everything I am.”

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It doesn’t happen over night. It doesn’t happen in a year. It takes time and effort. You have to learn who you are to reach this result, Body Acceptance. I’ve found that I never use a scale anymore. I’ve found that I’ve stopped measuring my waist-line. You have to realize that “perfection” doesn’t exist in beauty. That’s really what this Body Positive movement is all about. It’s not “Everybody is perfect.” It’s that, yes we might have our flaws, but we’re okay with them.

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Special thanks to Debadeep Sen for capturing my good side (photography) & Keisha Lousie for making me look fabulous (hair&makeup).

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Lifestyle

Changes

“Time may change me
But I can’t trace time”

— David Bowie

As you finish one chapter in life and begin another,
you reflect on all that you have accomplished
and all that you still want to complete.

2014 was a big year for me:
It was my first year out of college
I moved in to my first apartment by myself
I started an amazing job
(a real, grown-up salary job with vacation days and health insurance!)
I adopted a kitten, Lunar Eclipse
and I launched the Style Asset blog.

But there is still so much I am working on and that I have to do!

Some goals cannot be completed within a year.
They are journeys that take time and dedication.

One of my biggest journeys has been in the health & wellness sector of my life.
About two years ago I began eating better, thanks to a book that changed my perspective on food,
(Eat to Live by Dr. Joel Fuhrman)
But this healthy eating led to unwanted weight gain.
Looking back now, I can see that prior to changes in my eating habits I was unhealthy.
Yes, I was skinny and everyone gawked at my tiny frame and I loved it,
but I was not healthy.

Healthy is a two-part program.
I had the eating part right, now it was time to work on the dreaded exercise portion.
So last year I joined a gym and went maybe three times a month.
Pathetic! How can I expect change when I put in so little effort?
Well, I did change: I gained 10 lbs, but my body fat remained at 19%.
That’s good, right? Maybe, but it’s not what I wanted.
Needless to say, I am not wasting money on a gym membership in 2015.
There are other ways to be active that suit different lifestyles.
I recently signed up for Daily Burn, an at-home work-out program,
and so far I’ve been able to stick with the weekly regime.

Fingers crossed that this helps me achieve my wellness goals:
not to be super skinny, but to be the best version of me that I can be.
I will not look at super models and envy their long legs or their 23″ waist,
because I have strong legs and beautiful curves.

2015 is about loving my outward appearance for what it is
and bettering myself mentally & physically.
In 2015 I will read more, I will drink more water and less wine,
I will use less salt, I will cook a majority of my meals in my own kitchen, & I will exercise weekly.
In 2015 I will continue growing Style Asset by encouraging my creativity
and not letting a busy work week drain me of energy to express that creativity.
This year, I vow to shop smarter by investing in quality pieces
rather than buying something “because it’s only $10, so why not?”
I will consume less and save more.
I will prepare my body & mind for this amazing future that I have in store.

2015 is gonna be big.

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